In recognizing this, I knew it was time to get a hold on my abilities, to become the master of my abilities vs. having them run the show). I started by telling spirits they weren't allowed to just show up and demand my attention. I became bigger than them by knowing my own spirit self as well as my physical self. I became stronger in myself by noting that my physical experiences had already put me through enough and that they couldn't scare me b/c I had already survived so much. I recognized my self-worthiness, and with this I could choose. I could choose when I wanted to be open and when I wanted privacy. (This works well in the physical world too, btw!)
I shut down certain parts of my psychic self so that I wouldn't see or hear everyone else's stuff all the time. I learned how to ground and center myself and I also learned how to open myself, but it was all based on what worked for me. It was no longer about what everyone else needed.
And from this place, I feel grateful. I am grateful for my abilities. I am grateful to be able to offer guidance to others. I recognize the importance of not allowing the psychic world to run me, b/c living in the physical world is important as well. I offer readings to folks who seek it and who exchange with me for my skills, either by providing their skills to me or by paying me monetarily (since I do live in this physical world). I do have a channel open for some spirits to seek assistance, and when they come I do respond. This is my way of serving the greater picture. I know that by serving spirits it supports the whole. Sometimes, I work with a person in physical form and a person in spirit form at the same time. For example I may help a womon (in physical form) and her sister (in spirit form) complete a relationship that didn't get completed while they were both in physical form. I may also help the spirit move on to a more peaceful place. By offering this service, I am helping both souls and ultimately, I am helping the greater evolution of humanity and the universe.